Your Heritage: Healing the Roots
In this module, we explore the foundation of your life, your relationship with your parents and early experiences. Discover how unhealed dynamics from childhood can shape your present, and learn how to free yourself from old patterns to step into your authentic, independent self.
Rediscovering Your Mother
REDISCOVERING YOUR MOTHER
Your very first love relationship in life is with your mother.
From the moment of conception, you were already connected, feeling, sensing, and receiving her. While you were growing within her, you could feel her heartbeat, her emotions, even her thoughts. What your mother experienced during pregnancy, her feelings, her fears, her joys, all touched and shaped you, even if unconsciously.
And although the umbilical cord is cut at birth, the energetic and emotional bond with the mother remains.
In the first months and years of life, we experience ourselves through our mother. The more loving, caring, and emotionally available she is, the more our natural needs for closeness, tenderness, nourishment, comfort, and support, are met. From this, our sense of self-worth and security begins to form.
The more we are met with warmth and care, the more deeply we know we are lovable, precious, and worthy of love.
However, this early period, from conception through infancy and early childhood, is also a delicate and formative time.
Many of us began our journey into life under difficult circumstances; through a stressful pregnancy, a complicated birth, or an early physical separation from our mother. Others may have grown up with a lack of emotional presence, affection, or consistent care. These experiences can leave imprints that shape how we relate to love, safety, and connection.
Whatever your personal story, whether during pregnancy, birth, early childhood, or adolescence, if moments of pain or disruption occurred that were never brought to light, they may still influence you today. Sometimes these experiences lie beyond conscious memory; other times, they were simply too painful to face at the time.
When such wounds remain unresolved, we may find it difficult to fully accept or connect with our mother. We might hold subtle rejection, resentment, or pain, even if, on the surface, the relationship appears peaceful.
For those who experienced emotional or physical neglect, rejection, or even abuse from their mother, these wounds can run very deep. No matter how long ago they occurred, unhealed pain continues to affect us. It can limit our capacity for closeness and love, not only in our relationships with others, but also with ourselves.
This part of your journey is about healing your relationship with your mother, for your sake.
It is not about forgiving or excusing what happened, nor about offering approval.
It is about freeing yourself, opening again to love, to life, and to your own wholeness.
This process unfolds in small, gentle steps. You will be guided and supported through it with mindfulness and care.
For now, I invite you to begin by exploring your mother with new eyes — to see her not only as “your mother,” but as a woman with her own story, her own limitations, and her own history.
When you are ready, please watch the video instructions that follow.
Rediscovering Your Father
REDISCOVERING YOUR FATHER
One of the most influential figures in our lives is our father.
For many children, the father represents strength, safety, and guidance, often seen as a hero in early life. It is almost impossible to develop a stable sense of self-worth and confidence without, at some level, love, recognition, or affirmation from the father.
Both boys and girls deeply need their father’s presence.
When this presence is missing, whether emotionally or physically, it often leaves a painful emptiness.
For both sons and daughters, the father opens the doorway to the masculine world.
He is the first model of masculine energy and values, influencing how we relate to men, authority, structure, and even to ourselves.
Of course, no parent-child relationship is perfect. Every relationship with a father carries some degree of misunderstanding or pain. But for many, these wounds are significant, and at times, deeply traumatic.
Some of us have experienced emotional neglect, rejection, or absence from our father. Others may have suffered from physical or even sexual violence. When such wounds are not healed, their impact can linger for a lifetime, weakening our self-belief, our ability to trust, and our capacity to form and sustain healthy relationships, both personally and professionally.
Unresolved pain with the father often shows up in subtle ways: in how we relate to authority, how we receive recognition, how we pursue success, or even how we define our own worth.
This module is about healing your relationship with your father, for your sake.
It’s not about approving of what he did or didn’t do, or offering forgiveness before you’re ready.
It’s about freeing yourself, reclaiming your energy, your self-worth, and your ability to love and be loved fully.
This process happens gently, step by step, through reflection and awareness. You’ll be guided and supported throughout, with care and mindfulness.
For now, I invite you to take a fresh look at your father, to see him not only as your father, but as a man with his own story, limitations, and experiences.
When you’re ready, please continue with the video instructions that follow.
Healing the Inner Child: A Journey Back to Wholeness
In this guided process, you’ll connect with your inner child from a place of safety and compassion. Through gentle awareness and embodied integration, you’ll begin to release old emotional patterns and rediscover the freedom, love, and trust that have always been within you.
Use the Audio below to do the process.
The Power of Good Parents
This video introduces a calming meditation to help you connect with your ideal inner mother and father: the nurturing figures you always needed.
Use the Audio below to do the process.
FAREWELL FROM YOUR MOTHER
This exercise is a deep and transformative process. It invites you to release old emotional ties, unmet needs, and pain connected to your mother so that you can reclaim your energy and move forward with greater freedom and peace.
Allow yourself around one hour (or more) for this practice. Make sure you’re in a safe, private space and that you have time for yourself afterwards.
You’ll need a photo of your mother, ideally from the time when you were a child. If no photo is available, you can draw one instead.
Please do this exercise for one parent at a time, leaving a few days in between.
Before You Begin
Create a protected space where you can be completely undisturbed. Have some water nearby, and a notebook for reflection later.
PART 1
Expression and Release (Allow at least 15 minutes for this part)
Place the photo of your mother in front of you and look at it quietly.
Let memories, sensations, and emotions arise, both tender and painful. You might remember moments when you felt unseen, unheard, or unloved.
Allow whatever comes to surface, without censoring or analysing.
Now, begin to give voice to what your inner child never had the chance to express. Speak in short sentences, letting them start naturally with words like:
- I resent you…
- I’m angry with you…
- I accuse you…
- I hate you…
- I wish you had…
- I needed you to…
Let these words flow freely.
If tears come, let them. If anger arises, allow it to move through your body. You can cry, stamp your feet, hit a pillow, or simply breathe through it.
There is no right or wrong here. You cannot harm anyone in this process. You are not doing this to your mother, you are doing it for yourself.
This is your inner child finally being seen and heard. These feelings are simply parts of you that need space to release and transform.
If at any point you feel numb, stuck, or unsure, just acknowledge it: “I feel nothing right now.” That’s okay. Numbness is often a part that learned to protect you from pain. Stay present with it.
As emotions begin to move, notice the relief that may start to appear, even subtly. Feel how the weight of the past begins to loosen.
Gently remind yourself how much time lies between then and now. You are here, safe, and held by your adult Self.
PART 2
Gratitude and Letting Go (Take at least as much time as in Part 1)
Now, look again at your mother’s picture.
Take a few deep breaths and allow yourself to recall moments, however small, of kindness, presence, or care.
Even if this feels difficult, trust that there were moments of goodness too.
Remember qualities or strengths she had that you may have inherited or benefited from.
Express these in short, honest sentences:
- I thank you for…
- I appreciate that you…
- I recognise your strength in…
- I see now that you did your best.
- I love you for…
When you feel ready, offer a gesture of respect; a small bow, a nod, or placing your hand over your heart.
You’re not doing this to condone or excuse what happened. You’re doing it to release yourself, to close this chapter with honour and integrity.
You might wish to say aloud:
“I honour your path, and now I set you free. And I set myself free. I can love without carrying the past.”
Allow whatever feelings arise; sadness, tenderness, or even emptiness. Everything that appears is welcome.
Afterwards, take time to rest and integrate. Drink water, go for a walk, or simply sit quietly. Avoid distractions or emotional conversations for a while. This time is still part of the process.
Repeating the Exercise
You may repeat this exercise as often as you need. Each time, you’ll notice more space within yourself, less anger, less pain, less numbness.
What remains is lightness, compassion, and a sense of inner freedom.
Through this process, you gradually release childlike dependency and unfulfilled longing, opening yourself to deeper self-love and peace.
Approach this exercise with gentleness and devotion, and witness the quiet miracle of healing unfold.
I wish you a beautiful, freeing, and deeply healing experience.
FAREWELL FROM YOUR FATHER
This exercise invites you to release emotional ties, old pain, and unspoken feelings connected to your father so that you can reclaim your freedom and inner strength.
Allow yourself around one hour (or longer if needed). Choose a safe, private space, and make sure you have time afterwards for rest and integration.
You’ll need a photo of your father, ideally from when you were a child. If no photo is available, draw or visualise his face instead.
Please do this exercise for one parent at a time, with a few days in between.
Before You Begin
Prepare a calm, protected environment where you can be completely undisturbed. Have some water nearby, and a notebook for writing afterwards.
PART 1
Expression and Release (Allow at least 15 minutes for this part)
Place your father’s photo in front of you and take a few quiet breaths.
Look at it and allow memories and emotions to rise, both painful and tender. You might recall moments where you felt unseen, criticised, or longed for his love and approval.
Let whatever arises surface naturally, without judging or analysing it.
Now, begin to give voice to what was left unsaid. Let your younger parts speak freely, the child in you who once couldn’t.
Use short, direct sentences such as:
- I resent you…
- I’m angry with you…
- I accuse you…
- I hate you…
- I wish you had…
- I needed you to…
Say whatever wants to be said.
If tears come, let them. If anger arises, allow it to move through you; stamp your feet, cry, punch a pillow, or simply breathe.
Don’t hold back or censor yourself. This is not about judging your father, it’s about giving your inner child the space to express what was once suppressed.
You cannot hurt anyone by doing this. You are not doing it to your father, you are doing it for yourself.
If you feel numb or stuck, simply acknowledge it: “I feel nothing right now.” That’s also part of the process. Often a sign of an inner protector keeping you safe.
Stay with whatever is present. If nothing new comes up, repeat what you’ve already said and feel what happens.
Remember: If you can feel it, you can heal it.
When you notice the intensity easing, when something softens or lightens inside, pause.
Acknowledge how much time has passed between then and now.
You are no longer that child; you are the adult Self who is here to hold and heal them.
PART 2
Gratitude and Letting Go (Take at least as much time as in Part 1)
Now look again at your father’s photo.
Take a few deep breaths and invite memories of the moments that were good, times when you may have felt supported, inspired, or safe, even if only briefly.
Trust that there were also moments of goodness, however small.
Recall your father’s strengths, qualities, or skills that shaped you in some way.
Speak these in short sentences, for example:
- I thank you for…
- I appreciate that you…
- I recognise your strength in…
- I love you for…
- I see now that you did your best.
When you’re ready, offer a small gesture of respect, perhaps a bow, placing your hand on your heart, or simply closing your eyes in gratitude.
This is not about approval or forgiveness; it’s about closure and release.It’s about recognising your father as a soul with his own story and allowing both of you to be free.
You might wish to say aloud:
“I honour your path, and now I set you free, and I set myself free. It can now be good. I’m going my own way.”
Let any emotions come; sadness, relief, or peace. Everything is welcome.
Afterwards, rest or move gently. Drink water, take a walk, or spend some quiet time integrating the experience. Avoid distractions or emotional exchanges for a while; the process continues even after the exercise ends.
Repeating the Exercise
You may repeat this process as often as you need. Each time, you’ll feel a bit lighter, less anger, less sadness, and more calm and understanding.
You’ll begin to feel how the old burdens and dependencies lose their grip. What remains is clarity, inner stability, and self-trust.
Through this practice, you free yourself from the past, from unfulfilled longings, and from the emotional weight of your childhood. In its place, you gain peace, compassion, and strength.
Approach this exercise with gentleness and honesty and allow the quiet miracle of healing to unfold.
I wish you a deeply freeing and healing experience.